If I get married right now, I will tell my wife that I love her to my highest percentage, that being 99%. I will also tell her that I purposely hold an additional 1% because for me it allows me to be in continual thought of finding other ways to show to my wife of how much I love her. The 1% allows continual growth to thrive in the relationship. The 1% is not a doubt tool, it is a reality tool that keeps the relationship fresh, exciting and new. The new is exciting because now I am allowing my mind's standards to change, and as I mature into my older years, my standards mature as well. Being 60 years old while shouting at others your 21 year old standard, does not make the 60 year old childlike. It actually shows extreme immaturity (stuck in time)(false perception).
A person that has placed 100% into their all may find themselves lost once their all collapses. The person did not leave an open percentage to fall back onto which allows the minds-thoughts time to regroup. Let’s say that I am 45 years old and while waving my 21 year old standards at others, the others can clearly see that I am a mess. More and more people fall away from me mainly because my mouth is continually talking my truth, and now shouting my truth, while my ears remain absolutely closed. My mind is not even allowing the other person to be in the conversation but yet attempts to keep others in my much needed one sided conversation. With the ears remaining closed, the act of seeking growth or answers, becomes an escalating frustration. (“I need to convince you of what I think is right so once you agree, you have given me the additional confidence I seek to show that I know what I am talking about”). (“But if you disagree with me I will quickly throw you to the side and seek another person to trespass upon and infect with my immature or delusional truth”). |