This text is a addition to Proper Apology. Will be added to the end of the original writing soon.
This is a example of how the Shadow protects the inner child. But there are a few dynamics here that need to be understood. In this case this shows a person who is trying to reach another person after they have hurt the other person. How does a person reach and calm another persons Shadow? This is not a easy task especially if the other person does not recognize their Shadow at all. That inner voice Shadow within them is screaming, “your partner will hurt you again.” The Shadow laughs saying “I told you so, you are inadequate to even hold a relationship.” The Shadow can be really mean and unfair and can bring forward a lot of tears. The ego steps in having a plan to raise this persons self esteem, but yet the Shadow continues to suggest a different story. The person over time uses forgiveness over and over to allow time to slowly calm the storm, a storm that now awaits in full force, for a similarity of the past situation to raise again allowing the storm to come forward in a even stronger way. If the person does not find a way to personally talk to their Shadow in a very respectful way, the person may find themselves in a never ending Maze that can last lifetimes.
Looking at the other person in this story. Ego is relieved that the relationship is over and is filling the person with positive self esteem. Overall this is only a illusion, and the person somewhat parades around and looks for many allies (other peoples support) to keep this self esteem at its highest level. But when the person looks at themselves in the mirror, the truth is continually exposed as they see the Shadow having a sinister smile staring and waving at them. Their ego fights this reflection, but the ego-Shadow battle continues. It even continues while not looking in the mirror. It battles so much that the person can find that they are trapped in what seems to be a never ending battle, that can last lifetimes. The saying is that “Time” heals, but the saying should be that “The Shadow never forgets.” A person needs to come to terms with their Shadow and not their ego to bring the person back into balance. This is a act that can be achieved by understanding who this Shadow is, and how much respect this Shadow should be given…. all of the time.
Jesus teaching: "Forgiveness is not just a act of forgiving. Confrontation must first take place for forgiveness to hold."